It’s a new year and it’s time for a new you…yeah, whatever. If you’re anything like me, you know how this is gonna play out:
JANUARY–> you’re killing it –>FEBRUARY–> you’re still rolling –>
MARCH–> your breaks are failing –>APRIL–> your resolutions are DEAD.
I hate to suck the wind out of your sails, but statistics show that we have a 92% chance of letting our resolutions go to crap. So, if you’re one of the 8 lucky folks to succeed out of every 100 people who try to meet their goals, stop reading.
But if you’re a realist like me, I’ll let you in on a little secret: you don’t need some highfalutin resolution that looks good online as pretty hand-lettered quote art or a catchy hashtag. Nope, all you’ve got to do is CUT THE CRAP.
Seriously. Cut it out.
I know, I’m weird and my mind is stuck in the potty, but I think we can all stand to learn a lesson or two in crap cutting. Since I’m in the potty training business, let’s use parenting as an example. We all know that we have no idea what we’re doing, so who are we trying to fool? Sure, we can read books and listen to wiser folks with more experience, but it’s by the grace of God that our kids haven’t held up a gas station with their Nerf guns just to land some Skittles.
Considering that our parenting skills are a work in progress, why are we so hard on ourselves and so quick to judge each other? It’s probably because we’re all full of crap. When we are consumed with being the “perfect” parent, we’re chasing after an impossible goal which drives us into a comparison mindset. We compare ourselves to other parents, but the worst part is, the object of that we’re comparing isn’t our parenting skills, it’s our kids.
Just let that one sink in for a minute.
We divert our own fears and insecurities onto our children because we actually judge our ability to parent by it’s product, which unfortunately, falls on them. It’s a heavy load for little Johnny to bear when Mom and Dad are assessing themselves based on his GPA and batting average. It’s enough pressure to make any one crumble and it leads to the dysfunctionalism that we adults just can’t hack.
Let’s try something new in 2017. Instead of setting a self-centered goal and facing a 92% chance of failing, maybe we’re more likely to succeed if we make a resolution for our children’s sakes. It’s easy to let ourselves down, but when it comes to our kids, I think the odds are in our favor.
This year, just keep it simple and CUT THE CRAP. You’re not perfect, your kids aren’t perfect, and in case you haven’t noticed, neither is any one else. When you smell the parenting stress sneaking up on you, just flush it and keep rolling.
If we can stick with this one simple resolution, I think our kids will thank us.